I have coached and played most of my life. I have coached fastpitch softball for the last 17 years, from Little League, high school, 12u to 18u. It depends on the age. All like structure, a sense of belonging, want a coach that is demanding, knowledgeable, understanding, fair and have some fun. I now get it after having two daughters. I learned that Prom is “very” important even if you have a game that week and even if you have to have nails and are a pitcher. I get it that after playing ball all summer, there needs to be a down time to recharge the battery. I get it that friends and their birthday parties are important to a teenage girl. The main thing I learned is that softball is a big part of their life, but wasn’t the only thing in their life. The lessons learned on field ( work ethic, teamwork, mental toughness and the respect for the game) has carried over in their young adult lives. I am proud to see the young ladies that I have coached move on to be the great young mothers and contributors to society. It’s nice to see some of them 10 years later, only to be called “coach”. You then that you earned their respect and were a positive part of their life.
let me see if I can add some comments relative to Fathers coaching their daughters. I recognize that each Father/Daughter dynamic will be different so let me offer some general thoughts. Perhaps my experiences will help other Dad’s. My background was as a competetive athlete from HS through college and nationally for many years thereafter. I was also a trained teacher and coach. I was and am today a loving Father.
Let me take a look back….I think it was easier when the girls were younger between the ages of say 6 and 12. They listened, they absorbed every word. Maybe it was just because they wanted to make Dad happy? There was less pressure on winning and more emphasis on skill development and pure enjoyment of the game. I think this concept should remain an integral part of participation until such time as they no longer compete.
Hi Rick,
Thank you for your comment. We see this trend as well with Fathers coaching their daughters. At a young age, female athletes love to impress their parents, and when their father is the coach, it’s “cool”. As female athlete mature into their teenage years, they tend to be more independent and try to learn things on their own. Their attitude tends to shift from wanting their dad to teach them everything to wanting to show their dad they know everything.
You can read more about “Coaching a Female Athlete” in our blog as well as our e-book, soon to be published. Thank you for your comment and we look forward to hearing from you again!
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Joe at Fix the Mitt says:
June 4, 2011 at 3:44 am (UTC -7)
I have coached and played most of my life. I have coached fastpitch softball for the last 17 years, from Little League, high school, 12u to 18u. It depends on the age. All like structure, a sense of belonging, want a coach that is demanding, knowledgeable, understanding, fair and have some fun. I now get it after having two daughters. I learned that Prom is “very” important even if you have a game that week and even if you have to have nails and are a pitcher. I get it that after playing ball all summer, there needs to be a down time to recharge the battery. I get it that friends and their birthday parties are important to a teenage girl. The main thing I learned is that softball is a big part of their life, but wasn’t the only thing in their life. The lessons learned on field ( work ethic, teamwork, mental toughness and the respect for the game) has carried over in their young adult lives. I am proud to see the young ladies that I have coached move on to be the great young mothers and contributors to society. It’s nice to see some of them 10 years later, only to be called “coach”. You then that you earned their respect and were a positive part of their life.
Kelly says:
June 5, 2011 at 8:15 pm (UTC -7)
Thank you for your comment. We will continue to post our experiences and would like to continue to hear yours.
Rick says:
June 8, 2011 at 8:19 pm (UTC -7)
let me see if I can add some comments relative to Fathers coaching their daughters. I recognize that each Father/Daughter dynamic will be different so let me offer some general thoughts. Perhaps my experiences will help other Dad’s. My background was as a competetive athlete from HS through college and nationally for many years thereafter. I was also a trained teacher and coach. I was and am today a loving Father.
Let me take a look back….I think it was easier when the girls were younger between the ages of say 6 and 12. They listened, they absorbed every word. Maybe it was just because they wanted to make Dad happy? There was less pressure on winning and more emphasis on skill development and pure enjoyment of the game. I think this concept should remain an integral part of participation until such time as they no longer compete.
I’ll add more comments later…….
Keri says:
June 13, 2011 at 8:47 pm (UTC -7)
Hi Rick,
Thank you for your comment. We see this trend as well with Fathers coaching their daughters. At a young age, female athletes love to impress their parents, and when their father is the coach, it’s “cool”. As female athlete mature into their teenage years, they tend to be more independent and try to learn things on their own. Their attitude tends to shift from wanting their dad to teach them everything to wanting to show their dad they know everything.
You can read more about “Coaching a Female Athlete” in our blog as well as our e-book, soon to be published. Thank you for your comment and we look forward to hearing from you again!
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